Legally Blind- It’s all about attitude!

When our children were very young, and Whitey still had vision, he required them to wake up and shout “Enthusiasm”. Our little five year old daughter would sleepily answer, “Fusiasm, Daddy, Fusiasm”.

Now we are grandparents, and this week, our grandson gave us the giggles as he told us he always shouts “Enthusiasm” when he wakes up. And of course he very loudly demonstrated exactly how he does it!

Yes, he had had some coaching from Poppy along the way, but we had no idea he was actually doing it. And I know his dad, our son, laughed and laughed the first time he did that! It is a joyful thing to see little traditions like that one passed on to the next generation.

Attitude Is Everything Pick a Good One MetalAbility is what you’re capable of doing.

The thing that fascinates me is that Whitey’s enthusiasm for life never faded with his vision. When I ask him about it, he refers back to good coaches and childhood athletic programs. All I know is that he has maintained that positive attitude and I am so thankful! Can you imagine living with a blind partner who complains all the time? Whew!

One of Whitey’s favorite writings is


by Chuck Swindoll


The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.

About jta

South Carolina grandmother who loves to write, dance, and visit with friends and family.
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17 Responses to Legally Blind- It’s all about attitude!

  1. bevspaper says:

    Oh I so love this post, Joan! We choose our attitude and it makes all of the difference in the world.

    My poor Mother was such an unhappy woman most of her life and it really bothered me as I grew older. One day as she was sharing her bad attitude about life in general, I stopped her. I said, “Mom we have a choice every morning when we wake up. We can choose to be happy and thankful for the blessings we have or we can choose to be miserable and never see any beauty around us. I choose happy every day, Mom.”

    It is so very sad when people carry the burden of a bad attitude with them every day. They miss so much! The miracle of a beautiful flower, the laughter of a child, the colors in a sunset that only God can find the paint for, the joy of a playful kitten, and all of those little events that come our way each day.
    .-= bevspaper´s last blog ..Dandelion of the Budding Trees Moon =-.

  2. Joan Adams says:

    Thank you John! And especially sharing the link to my favorite lens, for sure!

  3. Joan Adams says:

    Thank you, Bev!
    I do worry that I was a grumpy mom, always in a hurry, trying to work and take care of home and family. I have always had to really work hard on the attitude!
    Thankfully, though, my mom always whistled though the day. I think of that often, Mama humming hymns or whistling and wonder how my kids will remember me.

    And our attitude is one thing our kids will remember- even if they forget everything else!

    For sure, we have a choice!

  4. Joan Adams says:

    Great story, Alex, and yes, you allowed your son to have a super “yes, I can” attitude and that one lesson was a huge gift to him. Can you imagine how different his life would have been had he not played football as a youngster? Believing in him and allowing him to believe in himself — what a gift! Football, swimming, golf, whatever the sport or activity, we have to let them try if they want to.

    We moms tend to coddle our kids, especially if they have any kind of handicap at all. That’s why kids need super daddies! πŸ™‚

  5. Joan Adams says:

    Oh yes, Alex — I made that same mistake once — pulled our son off a baseball field because of tornado warnings. I did not think the coaches were paying enough attention to the weather. All I accomplished was upsetting my son! His dad was not there that day. πŸ™‚

  6. Alex says:

    My son (my personal hero) was born mildly handicapped. He is border line Cerebral Palsy.

    When he was in the 3rd grade, he came home and announced that he wanted to play Pee Wee Football. My ex-wife was aghast and told him he couldn’t because of his “condition”.

    I took her to the garage and firmly explained that in no way were we ever to tell that young man what he can do and cannot do. If he was going to develop a strong attitude, we must cheer him on. He must find out on his own what his abilities are.

    He played football right through High School. He was never the fastest, but he had the biggest heart.

    Attitude. Don’t leave home without it.
    .-= Alex´s last blog ..Article Directories Are Powerful Tools In The Link Wheel =-.

  7. Alex says:

    LOL…once, he was hit and stayed down. There was a gasp from th crowd. My ex ran onto the field (I did try to stop her) and bullied her way past the coaches and trainers.

    Alex had the wind knocked out of him, but not long enough to hold back, “Mom, get off the field and DON’T EVER DO THAT AGAIN!”
    .-= Alex´s last blog ..Article Directories Are Powerful Tools In The Link Wheel =-.

  8. mshomeec says:

    Can’t begin to tell you how many times I have shared your “fusiasm” story! And honestly, sometimes, I am telling it to myself! I wake up slowly, but after one cup of coffee, I try very hard to add ‘fusiasm’ to my daily routine. It’s not always easy, but oh, does it make a difference – not only to my own day, but I am sure to all others I am around at work. Such a good habit and good lesson for us all. Thanks to Whitey for being a positive influence on me and many others!

  9. Joan Adams says:

    Post-polio is such a cruel disease! Folks who think they are past that suddenly find themselves having to deal with it again. Love your hubby’s “the best!” and his attitude! Doesn’t that just amaze you every day?
    Whitey always answers, “I’d have to be twins to be better!” lol

  10. Dianne says:

    You gave your son a powerful gift there. I think that is a difference between moms and dads. When our little boys would fall down, DH would say SAFE! as in baseball and make the SAFE sign like an umpire would do. My first instinct was to run to help them up and then they would cry etc. Dads know what to do!
    .-= Dianne´s last blog ..Notes from the Nimitz =-.

  11. Dianne says:

    A positive attitude will truly take you far in life. I love to hear about Whitey’s wonderful attitude. I will try from now on to start my day with “Fusiasm!”
    .-= Dianne´s last blog ..Notes from the Nimitz =-.

  12. Joan Adams says:

    Thank you for commenting on my Senior Living post about having a positive attitude. Of course, you are right. Equal accessibility is certainly important! I would think accessibility is improving with all the new technology. Is it not? I would welcome a guest post from you on this subject, if you would like.

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  16. While I can certainly appreciate the need for all of us to carry a positive attitude around with us throughout our lives, it sadly isn’t the entire story especially when it comes to living with blindness or other severe disabilities. In addition to positive attitude and social acceptance, we must have equal accessibility. You can have the most enthusiastic outlook on life possible, but, without reasonably equal accessibility to technology necessary to live, learn and work, we’re still locked out and relegated to second-class status. Let’s all have a positive attitude, but also take action when we’re not being afforded the opportunities we deserve as people with disabilities. Let’s avoid the pitfall of just settling for less access in order to show society the mistaken notion that we’re OK playing second fiddle. No more! Let’s all stand up for our rights!
    .-= Darrell Shandrow´s last blog ..2010 NFB Washington Seminar Wednesday Evening Gathering Podcast =-.

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