Recently our dear friends were shocked by the death of their 25 year old son. He was killed in an accident. His twin brother had also died in an accident about 6 years ago. The grief in our town was palpable. It seemed everyone in town was connected to this special family in some way. Active, athletic, popular and loved by so many, the family was surrounded with visits and prayers.
I was especially impressed with our own daughter-in-law as she gently explained to our elementary grandchildren — “it is really important that we be with our friends when they are so very sad.” What a lesson to learn so early in life. And it really is that simple, isn’t it? We must be with our friends when they are sad. Sometimes condolence calls are so hard to do and yet we know how important they are. As the grandmother said, “visits help the time pass by.”
And as I visited with his grandmother, and she shared with me all of the cards and notes they have received, I was again reminded of the importance of those sympathy cards. I well remember the comfort we found in sympathy cards when our brother died suddenly. We would sit in dad’s living room and read them aloud to each other. Each one brought comfort. And it is such a simple thing to do — send a little card. I have to admit I am not as good about that as my sister, Betty. But today I am determined to do better. I do know how much it matters!