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Yesterday I attended the life celebration for Peggy Reel. Peggy made her transition on May 5, 2011. Peggy taught us how to live and then she taught us how to die. I continue to be comforted by her laughter just a week before she died. What a lady! Peggy lived her life to the fullest, [...]
Here is a sample of an In Memoriam poem: (I shared my recollections about this wonderful man and the family told me what they wanted me to capture about him. I read it at his funeral and so many people asked us for copies after the service)
My sister, Betty, writes notes every single day. Yesterday in her comments on my post, she said, “And the same is true with notes/cards. “Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers” ……..or “…in my heart at this sad time” are enough ….Memories are wonderful to add if a person is comfortable doing so. The bottom line is simply – do something. And do I ever agree with “weeks / even months” later. It is never to late to let someone know you care.”
And as I visited with his grandmother, and she shared with me all of the cards and notes they have received, I was again reminded of the importance of those sympathy cards. I well remember the comfort we found in sympathy cards when our brother died suddenly. We would sit in dad’s living room and read them aloud to each other. Each one brought comfort. And it is such a simple thing to do — send a little card. I have to admit I am not as good about that as my sister, Betty. But today I am determined to do better. I do know how much it matters!
My dear friend, Holley, wrote recently on her blog that she is worried about her parents, particularly her father’s upcoming surgery. And when I read her post, my heart grieved with her. I so well remember that dread, that fear, that “what happens to me without my parents?” And whether you admit it or not, no matter how old you are, you still feel that way until they are gone.
The older we get, the more time we seem to spend visiting the nursing home or rehab centers or worse yet, attending funerals. Do you sometimes feel that way? It’s hard to imagine we are at the age when so many of our friends are sick or dying. It’s been a rough week around here. [...]
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